I think maybe the 'tell you laters' and the lack of info on profile tells me that they are just looking for a quick 'rendezvous' if ya get my drift? I suppose those that want to do that can and those that don't want it well just ignore them if they contact ya, (or do what I do tell em 'no pic no talk')
I paid my £11.22 and put up a pretty comprehensive profile with a recent picture.
I was rather hoping I might find a new romantic partner that was actually, you know, interested in motorcycles. And yes, GASP, hopefully a bed would eventually feature in those plans because I'm an adult that likes sex. Shock! Horror!
This site seemed like a reasonable prospect. However, I now learn in another thread regarding a lack of profile pictures that despite the name 'Biker Match' it's not a dating site for bikers looking for bikers but rather. it's a social site - and if you're lucky you might find romance.
Apparently hoping to 'hook up' with someone for romance and sex is somewhat frowned upon. I felt the wagging of cyber fingers for daring to suggest that I was disappointed in paying a membership fee and then being confronted by so many profiles that had no pics or meaningful info. In point of fact I'm usually a very private person so it takes a lot for me to be candid about myself and personality in public. So when I'm putting it all out there I feel kind of uncomfortable being viewed by anonymous members.
However, I accept I am probably thoroughly reprehensible for desiring a relationship that includes sex with a woman that also shares my enjoyment of motorcycles.
I should be doing the right thing and pretending I'm just interested in meeting up in some drafty, rain-sodden field, pitching a tent and talking about bikes instead. To this end I've pulled all my details. All you need to know about me is that I'm a biker, right?
Lol i think you should change your name too, to perfectly normal.. which for most of us on BM means ... bonkers......
As for the tell me laters, i was nodded at by a complete "tell you later" so pmed him and asked him to tell me know..... i didn't get a reply....
'Biker Match' it's not a dating site for bikers looking for bikers but rather. it's a social site - and if you're lucky you might find romance. quoted by Strangely SaneTheres been so much debate about whether BM is a social site or a dating site.
But for me its been a social site for meet ups with other bikers... thats a good starting point for any relationship.... if I thought it was just a dating site I would have run a mile.. luckily I have met quite a few people male and female through this site who I feel comfortable with. There's so many sites for dating and sex if thats exclusively what you want. I think BM has provided a marketplace for people who want dating, a relationship or whatever. People are adult enough to make their own choices. Through the common love of motorcycling, they may just find other things in common with another person. They are then free to form whatever relationship they like. For me its about meeting others for social events and I feel safe enough within the site to do that. And long may it continue like that.
I think the vast majority of bm members aren't remotely interested in contributing to the forums or socialising at rallies or ride outs....those that do chip in to the forums and meet up at events are just a fraction of the total membership
Most are interested in hook ups or focussed on dating...there's loads of opportunity if that's what you're looking for
I'm with Strangely Sane in that as a dating site, which BM is, there's nothing wrong with expecting to meet someone who we can work at a relationship with, leading to a full mutual sexual relationship when the time arrives, if it arrives, of course.
However I think you're taking it all too seriously really. A lot of newbies join and as soon as they don't get what they expect they start to criticise the site and or its rules.
May I suggest that you put your photo back on, fill in your info and give it time, most of all enjoy yourself while you're waiting for Ms Right-For-You to come along?
Get to as many BM events as possible. The K.I.S.S. rally (31st Aug - 3rd Sept) would be an excellent place to meet loads of members, it's on the calendar, go there for details.
Ooh theres a world within a world going on here!! I'm clearly not with the majority ...
must stop letting things go over my head and round the sides, and stop wearing blinkers too... doh !!
yeah all that is fine but then lets just say you get chattin to someone who has said nothing in the profile who then turns out to be married with no bike and is just after a shag your putting your efforts in for nothing.although it doesnt stop them lying and saying theyre single when really married but thats the risk we all take but if you hate rave your not going to contact someone who does so all these things are important when looking for yhat special person or am i missing the point ???????
I am finding the 'Can't PM or Nod' comments on profiles the most frustrating, I am honest in my Profile, possibly too honest?
zzrbabe42 just after a shag I think that would be better than a 'Tell you Later' scroll down box
If you come across a profile with NO pic and just TELL YOU LATER from top to bottom just move on to the next it's there choice for there reasons.
I have been on here since 2008 I didn't get involved with the forums and meets until 2010 thats when the site really made séance I have meet loads of member's from all over the UK and I know if I were in trouble anywhere in the UK there are loads of members that would be there to help and if I see a member in truble in the mids and I can help I will.
As for a dating site yes it works there are loads of member that have meet a partner on here and some are now marred with kids.
''Tell you later'' = once you've started to feel something for me , I'll tell you the awful truth . =DISHONESTY. My eye colour says ''other'', coz being a bloke , I only know the names of a few colours . They are brown with green bits in . The 'site' seems to have very little to do with being a social site. 60,000 members ? Check out the event page and add up the people doing a bike event . On any given weekend there's only ever a couple of dozen names. Occasionally , upto 200 people ride motorcycles, (or pilly) while 59,800 people do not. The forums? Same old people saying the same old stuff. If the 59.800 are all bikers , presumably they have an active social life already and are looking for a date. I would imagine that the profile of '' a biker'' ( biker is the term for a regular rider or pillion ) is full of bike related photos. If you're a 'non biker' looking for a biker , explain it in your profile. Secrecy , just makes people wary. Dusty
My sentiments exactly dustin.i really think that the tell u later option shouldnt b allowd on certain parts of the profile we have rules about photos so why not other important stuff???
Depends on what your looking for me thinks, BM has a mix of folk who are looking for love, a quick shag, a ride out (take that anyway you want to !!!) or tell you later lol
Whatever it is that you want go for it, but if you dont tell folks how do they know :)
I stopped looking at profiles not long after joining a lot appear to have just been created to take a look at the site, and have no information or "tell ya later"
Plus I only ever get responses to PM's / NOD's from anyone I have already spoken to on the forums or chat room. I made some new friends from that but not lickley to be much more.
I tried on and off for a few months to start conversations with other users who may be interested and didn't get a single response. no one ever nods back so its pointless and seem to matter what I say in a PM no one responds. it always amuses me how many of you get hundreds of PM's mostly the girls guess it says alot about the state of things really
best way to start conversations and figure out if somebody is interested is to get yourself to some meets, if romance is not forthcoming at least you have new friends to annoy lol
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That wasnt really the point but cheer for the nod SS I now have a total of 1 YaY.
And JP your right I didnt OM you 1 your active on the furums and out and about so I can make friends with you with out needing to and 2 its says your dating on your profile :P
Does just prove though the only onse nodding and responding to PM are the fellas though not much of a dating site is it really unless your that way inclined.
And Jackie I go to meets and have meet loads of friends but they tend to be the same faces at the meets so far all very nice and while I think emzed may be intrested I dont get a lot of responce :) as I dont have football looks I tend to need to use witt and charm and at lest get the odd conversation going I didnt think I was that bad a person but apprently to anyone within 5 years of my age and 50 miles of where I live I am lol
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