WN is right with the CBT...but this guy is, who he is and his personalty will not change no matter how much advice is given until 1, He finds some who thinks the same as him and he like's. 2, He runs out of money is declared bankrupt then finds someone like him that he likes. 3, Die's.. I know a couple of people male and female who have done the same and one who sent money and was going to fly out when contact was lost and in all case's they trawl around looking, spending money, this is the one tripe but they do find the right one in the end, and only give advice when they ask you .....anyway got to go and book a flight for a blind date in Moscow.
If he wont listen then all you can do is be there when it goes pear shaped and help him get back on track.
If folk arent ready to hear the truth then theres no point banging on at them, not gud but true am afraid. We all learn from our mistakes sometimes it takes some plp more than one bad judgement to realise that
yes, I agree with BJ Im afraid, sometimes you just cant or dont get thanked for trying to help......some ppl just gotta learn the hardway by making the same mistake more than once! ....hard for sure, but if you've tried and he's still in there doing it again anyway...................nothing more to do but just be a friend when it all goes pear shaped again
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It seems frag some people just never learn no matter what the outcome so even thinking about this could be a waste of your time and effort. If he won't listen to his closest mates he won't listen to you so best spending the time thinking about the xmas pressies for your fella
He may not speak to you again, but if you know the site he uses, log on with a profile and start chatting him up. Then reveal to him how easy it is to pose as someone else and entrap someone.
Unfortunately this type of scam is quite common but he would be less inclined to be scammed if he joined a site he has to pay for. JMHO :)
Would he be kind enough to loan a friend in need a large amount of money? That way you could at least keep his money out of harms way till he gets to see sense.
Just a thought.
It sounds like this bloke needs his mates around him.
No-one likes to hear that they've got it wrong and I suppose it's good that he still has hope that he will meet someone genuine (don't we all?).
As has already been suggested, just be there for him when it goes pear-shaped again.
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