Idiots in government who cannot accept a child's illness and their clerks repeatedly telling me that my daughter is not ill, does not need care, nor supervision and certainly is not entitled to any help financial or otherwise..pompous twits!!
Your ex still causing trouble 53? If so TALK to her and sort out a solution, get her off your back so you can move on without looking over your shoulder half the time. It's gotta be done to be fair to yourself and to the one you're with now.
If people are vindictive (your choice of word) it's for a reason, set it straight but find out what's really at the root of it. A talk and an explanation could go a long way more than arranging a plan to repay a loan or something - we women like to know WHY when things fall apart.