The best moments in reading are when you come across something - a thought, a feeling, a way of looking at things - that you'd thought special, particular to you. And here it is, set down by someone else, a person you've never met, maybe even someone long dead. And it's as if a hand has come out, and taken yours.
Words of wisdom (for my daughter) You are smart. You are beautiful, inside and out. You are special. You deserve respect. You matter. Don't ever forget it and don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise or treat you otherwise. Treat others the way you want to be treated, or better. Respect everyone. It is OK to agree to disagree. Really listen. Learn all you can. You will never stop learning. Diversity is not just about acceptance. It is about trying to understand the things that make us different, and those that we have in common. It is about respecting other's opinions and ways of life, even if you don't understand or agree with them. Do what you love and you will never work a day in your life. There is no such thing as failure, you have just succeeded in learning what doesn't work. Try again and try harder! Work hard for what you want, and don't give up. Don't give up living either. Have fun every day! The little things do count. Live your life with integrity. Be honest to yourself and to others. Always go to bed with a clean conscience. When you need to apologize, do it right, and right away. Say you are truly sorry and mean it. Then ask how you can make things right again and follow through. Love with your heart, but listen to your mind. Your heart can sometimes be blinded. Things are just things and can be replaced. People can't be. Always save for a rainy day. Invest in yourself first. If it is too good to be true, it probably is. But sometimes you can get lucky. Economic or job success is a combination of hard work and good luck, being in the right place at the right time, and knowing the right people, and following good advice. Success in your personal life depends on you and what you want and has nothing to do with your socio-economic standing in life. Don't try to be like everyone else. Be yourself. You will be surprised how often an original is copied. Everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect. Have a sense of humour. It will come in handy. Laugh often. Remember that I love you and accept you, no matter what and forever. There is nothing you can do that will ever change that. There is always an opportunity for learning and growth. Seek the opportunity whenever you can. There are no such thing as experts. Trust your gut instinct, it is almost always right and is there for a reason. An education is important, but wisdom comes from experiences. You will need both. Take care of yourself, eat healthy, exercise, make good choices. Health matters, and you will need it. Don't ever believe you can't do something. You can, and will find a way, if you really want to. I know this from experience. Don't ever underestimate anyone. Everyone has the potential to do good or bad. It is a choice. Choose to do good. Make a commitment to love yourself. You cannot love another until you love yourself first. Accept yourself. Make happy memories, then save them for a rainy day.
I need someone who is prepared for a million questions, uncontrollable laughter, my family, my appetite, musical outbursts, random dancing, my friends, deep talks, my imagination, my dreams, walks in the rain, random texts, useless arguments, and acceptance of real me.
One of my late grandmother's favourites about people who promise much and deliver little as referring to them as folk who fart wonders and sh*t miracles.