In all seriousness *ahem* nail on head with this bit: "The trick is to get to really like yourself" Em.
It took me many years to recover from an abusive relationship... and I'm still guilty of low self-esteem issues from time to time, but I like myself a whole helluvalot more these days... and it definitely helps...
Don't get me wrong, I don't think that having a 1 to 1 relationship is the be-all and end-all to life and I certainly don't imagine that it's the equivalent of waving a magic wand, making all aspects of your life "perfect" or miraculously making someone "happy"!
I'm not expecting some chivalrous knight to rescue me or owt... I just happen to think that there are worse things to hope for than a lasting love through a long term partnership in this lifetime. OK, so that probably makes me a romantic idealistic old fool, but I've been labeled a hell of a lot worse in my time, so I can live with that
Blimey... That was a bit deep so early in the morning... I shall blame it on sleep-deprivation... 2 hours' sleep in 48 isn't ideal
There are many different ways to live your life, but life is about sharing, having lots friends, a partner may be does not suit everybody, you have to find your self first work out what youd like see whats a bout then compromise if it suits.
or go through the rest of your life wondering where it all went wrong and going round in circles. what a waste of time!
Julie ask this question of yourself why do i want a man?
.. answers on a postcard marked "Why does kenn want a man?" competition....
I have bimbled through life on my own, neither seeking a relationship (nor they seeking me, apart from once and fate tore us apart), I have few friends but those I have are very good ones and understand if we don't speak for years....
.. and I am a VERY happy chappy!
Yeh i was just thinkin the same thing... Kenn, WHY do you need a man? is it because you need someone to wash up for you?
Julie, im not so sure a 'non-biker' would mek a good match, especially if they are not inta the bike scene at all.
What about when you want to be off on ride outs/tours etc. I think it would be fine at first, then he would start to 'miss you' 'get jealous' want you to spend time with him instead of you biker mates...
and at first you would probably give in to that... but then it might turn into resentment..
Just my opinion, but in my case i was very much into bikes, then met an married my totally non-biker ex hubs.. had 23 mostly good years, but now found my biking passion agen and regret having left it on hold all those years, nearly half my life spent wivout bikes.. thats scary..
There are indeed some really lovely fellas out there not inta bikes, but i don't think i could be totally happy with one of them... just my opinion.
And TC.. its the quality of your friends that count, not the quantity
its all good advice Karey, you have to pick out what suits you at the time.
and Karey atleast you got back into it while you are still young enough to enjoy it.
To me its all about having fun, with friend, n your right Karey youll have fantastic friends that are very close then other friends not so close.
Dont go out of your way to hirt people.
But have fun leave the baggage behind & just get on with it. and that mr right may not be out there.
So what do you do then?
It's horses for courses... Thank goodness we don't all want the same things in life. How utterly tedious would that be?!
You tell Julie (soz for picking on you J! lol) to ask herself why she wants a man... I say, why shouldn't she want a man? What on earth's wrong with wanting to share your life with a partner at some point?
Yeah, by all means, you don't want to be sitting indoors giving it "Woe is me, my life sucks! If only someone would love me then it'd be OK, but hey, they're all a bunch of biatches/b'stards* anyway so why bother"
*delete as applicable
But I don't think too many of us round these parts are guilty of that!
& yeah... there may not be a Mr/Miss Right "out there", but nobody ever said that meant you weren't allowed to scout around for him/her occasionally... Just as with anything else in life, so long as it doesn't become your obsession, it's a perfectly healthy and "normal" thing to do.
For research purposes only, I joined "illicit encounters",errr yeh, I hear you say!! well you'll just have to take my word for it!! the men pay to join, the women don't.Without exception, the men were highly articulate,intelligent and "happy or content" with their marriage or partner, most of them had well paid jobs, houses, cars etc , but were bored between the sheets, the last thing they wanted was divorce or separation ( prob because they have too much to lose financially) It is in my opinion, prostitution, but i'm not condemning or condoning, and i'm interested to hear what others think, I have spoken to many of the men on the site and they are great to talk to, a real laugh some of them, but I never talk sex, because I don't intend to go down that route. The only feeling I get is sadness that they are so willing to deceive their partners, and it just reinforces my belief that men are indeed ruled by tommy todger!! Any thoughts anyone??
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