Hi all,
I suppose I'm rather shy at times and often forget to try to look 'cool' when I'm stood in the street dribbling at the sight of the local bikers going by. I find it really hard meeting other people into motorbikes, so I was wondering...
Is it ok to walk up to a complete stranger and say:
'Hello, I see you ride a motorbike, I do too, shall we be friends?' (with a big creepy grin on my face)
Does this make me sound
1. Desperate?
2. Crazy?
3. or just Honest and open to meeting new people?
Is this (or a less creepy version) in anyway something a guy would appreciate?
What if weeks/months go by where I don't bump into a random biker sort, do I run down the street chasing the nearest motorbike, waving the latest copy of Back Street Hereos and shouting IIIII LIIIKEEEE BIKESSSS TOOOOO!!!?
Now I know your struggling to decide if I am indeed choice 1.) desperate or 2.) crazy but hear me out men of biker match, unfortunately none of my friends are into bikes and most of them refuse to step into my local biker bars from fear of the big bad bikers so its very hard for a nice girl with good intentions to walk into a bar alone, I often get invited to clubs etc but don't go, so what advice would you give for someone that doesn't feel she can just rock up to a clubhouse on her tod but is keen to find people who share the same values in life?
:) Any helpful advice appreciated :p
Simples; rather than be seen to be desperate/crazy/stalker-esque, just get yourself along to events/rideouts/rallies make friends, get introduced to friends of friends and then their friends etc. You will eventually find yourself in a situation that you will find it easier to chat to females who understand you and know how you feel as well as males you may find 'interesting' and more importantly that find you 'interesting'! . BTW, put a photo up, it helps, most male members I know on here don't even bother checking profiles without photos!
I am reliably informed, by my other half, that it may be easier to rock up at a venue on your bike, that way it's easier to see you have a common interest!
aw thank you both, I dunno if I'm brave enough to go to rallies etc on my own??? But I will definitely have a look through some of the events/ group stuff, Thanks :)
Get chatting to some on here, build up familiarity gradually, you may get to venture out and take it a step further. Its confidence you need, I was in the same boat and have been helped along by the members on here to the extent I,m going on my first camp to Barmouth this year and looking forward to it. Good luck.
Socials or rallys is a way forward. Check out some of the profiles, there are a few from your neck of the woods. Best of luck AJ Put up a photo of yourself also.
I take it your from Newport South Wales so its a bit far out for the odd night out in the midlands but we have the Barmouth Camp in September Hallowistmus Party in November which are both great events + loads of other stuff and you will be made very welcome by all. If you dont fancy walking into any of the events on your own we can make arrangments for a Female member to give you a phone number and you can meet them outside and not be a billy no mates when you turn up lol
So that is how you never show up on your own JP, You phone BJ up and make her hold your hand Hallowistmus is a good night out, I think the only people in the local Travelodge that night will be from BikerMatch
Bj would never hold my hand, She knows where its been. Hallowistmas party is a must for all new members date dont fit with halloween or Christmas so we reinvented the wheel
Hello Sweet.....I absolutely back up the 'get yourself to an event!' suggestion. My first meet was a night in York and as soon as BMers knew I was alone they arranged to meet me off the train, organised a 'share' with other BMer ladies re accommodation, and the rest is (as they say) history!! I've not looked back since! York night was perfect for meeting other bikers in a relaxed and safe environment. I have made loads of new biker friends since, male and female. I ride to rallies mostly by myself, but each time I go, I'm finding I'm not alone for long....you get to know so many people. Get yourself off to one of the BM night outs first and take it from there. best of luck
I would join a local bike group. I just joined LMRC on https://www.meetup.com/ (that particular group won't be any good for you, it's London based, but there may be something local on thre for you). But I'm meeting plenty of people from the organised ride-outs. I'm sure there must be something around your way in Wales.
If not, why not start one up? There's probably plenty of people in the same boat as you. I know I am. This site is great for general chit chat, but there's not many people on here from London that I can see (apart from Ragnar, lovely bloke!).